While working at the wine store the other day I was talking with my manager about relationships and people and things. We eventually got onto the subject of what attracts people to each other and he said something that smacked me up a bit. He said "Guys want to be with a needy girl. They don't want a girl who doesn't need them. They just like to feel needed".
HOLD. THE. PHONE.
So you're saying all these years that I've spent becoming an independent, self sufficient, free-thinking gal will only keep men from wanting to be with me? All the things I've not said in order to avoid seeming "needy" would have been attractive? I've been under the impression that my independence would be something that a guy would love me for; something he admired most about me. Now I'm supposed to figure out a way to become needier? Act like I don't know how to do things or become a damsel in distress? I always scratched my head when I saw these great guys putting up with girls who could barely tie their own shoes. Maybe there was a method to that madness. They had a boyfriend after all.
Have I been in the dark about this all these years? I don't want to believe so. Do all guys feel this way or is this a case by case opinion? Maybe the fellas that love an independent woman are fewer and far between. I think I need more opinions. I'm not about to change who I am in order to land a man but maybe my expectations needs to change if this is really how men feel.
Guys, what do you think? Needy or Not? Maybe you can elaborate a little for me. I'm extremely curious to know what you all think about this.
6.17.2013
6.15.2013
to have and have not
I don't know if it's the fact that I'm 26 or that I'm living on my own for real for the first time or a combination of both of those things, but I've discovered certain ways about myself that have developed as of late. Ways that I go about my life; things that I choose to have or have not. Some of these things are pretty trivial but have become very much a part of my fiber as a 26 year old. I couldn't help but take a little inventory of them.
Things I can't live without:
Rainbow Sprinkles- If I'm gonna pay for the ice cream I will ALWAYS pay for rainbow sprinkles too.
Facial Hair- On a man of course. It used to be optional to me but I've found in recent times it's become a real necessity. Like a sign of ones manhood.
Dark Chocolate Chips- I keep a bag in the freezer at all times. They complete me.
Night Cream- How did I never invest in this before? My face has been thanking me lately.
DVR- I don't think I could ever go back.
Multivitamins- I know I don't eat all the things my body needs so these are the next best thing. It's time to start really taking care of this vessel I'm using.
Library Card- Free books....need I say more??
Eggs- I was never much of an egg eater growing up (My sister filled that role) but since moving here I find that eggs have become an essential part of my diet. They're just so versatile and delicious!
Glass Water Bottle- Free liquid refreshment from a tap in a reusable container? Done.
Things I can live without:
Mini Jean Skirts- There's a time and a place and I feel like that time and place already happened for me. And it was great while it lasted.
Designer Duds- I thought I would get sucked into the "label" game when I moved to NYC but I think being here has only reinforced the ridiculousness of it all. Old Navy V-Necks for life!
MTV- I used to really love me some "crappy tv" as my college roommates called it and don't get me wrong, every now and then I'll flip through the channels and indulge but I find myself not really caring about the absurd programs on this channel anymore.
Pop- Yes, I still call it pop. Out of sight out of mind and I'm better off for it.
Bottled Water- I just hate paying for things that I can get for free.
Beauty Magazines- I've read it all before Cosmo and I'll never fit into any of those clothes Vogue. Sorry.
Clubbing- I love to dance but I also like to have the space to do so. And the air to breathe. And the people to hear or talk to. And the bar to get to.
Iceberg Lettuce- My mom loves it so that's what I grew up eating and I still hate it. If I want water I'll just drink it. No need to chew it with dressing. Romaine for this girl!
The iPhone- I survived before it and I'll continue to do so without it in my life. Sorry iLovers. I just don't get the hype.
6.12.2013
the winds of change
Have blown! But before I delve into that, a little background information...
When I found out which apartment I would be moving to in the city I quickly google mapped the area to see what was around me. I quickly found this place called Annie & Co down the block from me that was a Needlepoint and Knitting shop. Can we say meant to be?? When I moved I quickly emailed the shop to see if they were hiring. After a month or so I hadn't heard anything so I decided to go and check the place out. I walked in, and it was love. The walls were covered with beautiful rainbows of yarn. There were little old ladies sitting around a table knitting. The quaintness was to die for. When I inquired about whether they were hiring or not I was heart broken when the woman told me they were over-staffed at the time. A few months after that I received an email in response to my original email to them. They wanted to interview me! I was elated. I sent them some pictures of my work along with my resume and waited impatiently for the day to arrive. Much to my chagrin, the day before my interview I received another email saying that they wouldn't need me after all but would keep me in mind. "Yeah right" I said to myself. We've all heard the "We'll keep your resume on file" line so i quickly forgot about the idea of working in yarn heaven. Silly me. About a month ago now I was at work and had a voicemail from a strange number. It was Annie & Co. They wanted to interview me again. Was this real life?! It was. I interviewed on a Thursday and got the job on Friday.
When something is meant to be, it's meant to be. And just because it doesn't happen in the timing we think it should doesn't mean it's not going to happen at all. Thanks for the reminder there God.
The choice to work at the knitting company was not entirely easy. I had to make the decision to leave the restaurant I had been working at since I moved here. I had made all my first NYC friends there and gone through a lot of work to try and make my schedules work out between both jobs. So while there was a little sadness in leaving, I knew it was the right choice for me. The pay is better, the hours are better, and I can't begin to express how much more fulfilling it is. I'm not on my feet for 8 hours straight. I'm not at work until 1am. I have time to do the things I really want to do like go for a run, knit, cook/bake and spend time with my friends finally! One and a half weeks in and I couldn't be happier with my decision. And did I mentioned that they want me to make a sweater?! I was so excited when I heard that! I've wanted to make a sweater for a while so I can't wait to take on this challenge! And do it the right way with some wonderful ladies for guidance.
I'm so excited for this change. While it means that I'll be working 7 days a week, I could care less. It's worth being able to get out of work at 6pm and do something that I really love. I miss my new pals from the restaurant but now that I don't work there I'm allowed to go there whenever I want for a drink! So it's not a total loss.
This is gonna be great!
When I found out which apartment I would be moving to in the city I quickly google mapped the area to see what was around me. I quickly found this place called Annie & Co down the block from me that was a Needlepoint and Knitting shop. Can we say meant to be?? When I moved I quickly emailed the shop to see if they were hiring. After a month or so I hadn't heard anything so I decided to go and check the place out. I walked in, and it was love. The walls were covered with beautiful rainbows of yarn. There were little old ladies sitting around a table knitting. The quaintness was to die for. When I inquired about whether they were hiring or not I was heart broken when the woman told me they were over-staffed at the time. A few months after that I received an email in response to my original email to them. They wanted to interview me! I was elated. I sent them some pictures of my work along with my resume and waited impatiently for the day to arrive. Much to my chagrin, the day before my interview I received another email saying that they wouldn't need me after all but would keep me in mind. "Yeah right" I said to myself. We've all heard the "We'll keep your resume on file" line so i quickly forgot about the idea of working in yarn heaven. Silly me. About a month ago now I was at work and had a voicemail from a strange number. It was Annie & Co. They wanted to interview me again. Was this real life?! It was. I interviewed on a Thursday and got the job on Friday.
When something is meant to be, it's meant to be. And just because it doesn't happen in the timing we think it should doesn't mean it's not going to happen at all. Thanks for the reminder there God.
The choice to work at the knitting company was not entirely easy. I had to make the decision to leave the restaurant I had been working at since I moved here. I had made all my first NYC friends there and gone through a lot of work to try and make my schedules work out between both jobs. So while there was a little sadness in leaving, I knew it was the right choice for me. The pay is better, the hours are better, and I can't begin to express how much more fulfilling it is. I'm not on my feet for 8 hours straight. I'm not at work until 1am. I have time to do the things I really want to do like go for a run, knit, cook/bake and spend time with my friends finally! One and a half weeks in and I couldn't be happier with my decision. And did I mentioned that they want me to make a sweater?! I was so excited when I heard that! I've wanted to make a sweater for a while so I can't wait to take on this challenge! And do it the right way with some wonderful ladies for guidance.
I'm so excited for this change. While it means that I'll be working 7 days a week, I could care less. It's worth being able to get out of work at 6pm and do something that I really love. I miss my new pals from the restaurant but now that I don't work there I'm allowed to go there whenever I want for a drink! So it's not a total loss.
This is gonna be great!
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